“People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave. A soul mates purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life, then introduce you to your spiritual master…”
Are you newly married? Arguing? Don’t be sad.. This is a good sign:
Sometimes couples have to argue, not to prove who’s right or wrong, but to be reminded that their love is worth fighting for.
There are many different types of arguing relationships, we shall explore the two I have identified and how to overcome them. The two which always stick out are:
Sheep and wolf
Lion and Tiger
Are you in a sheep and wolf relationship or a Lion and Tiger?
Sheep and wolf
You’re wondering, scratching your head in a total shock what nonsense! Well a sheep and wolf relationship is as follows:
Take Sheep:
Personality:
Backs down when in an argument
Keeps quiet when addressed
Bites tongue at other partners shortfalls / unacceptable behaviour
Will agree to anything and everything that partner says
Take Wolf:
Personality:
Always like to shout way over sheep
Brings emotional drama, blackmail and belittles partner
Likes to be the one who wins the arguments
Gets way in ideas, desires, wants and doesn’t think of partner as an equal
You could either be the sheep or the wolf… this is not a healthy situation to be in as the couples who never seem to argue (outsiders think are perfect) or address their disagreements are what we call a “Wolf and Sheep couple”. The sheep doesn’t have enough backbone or spirit to stand up for what they want so they just sheepishly give in to what the other wants. The wolf sits pretty for a while, until he or she wants more from a relationship than a sheep across the table! You see, a sheep is as bad for it as the wolf is for the sheep.
What to do in this situation?
You need to do the following three acts:
The wolf needs to listen to the needs of the sheep and to put themselves in their shoes.
The sheep needs to be brave and voice their opinion, they have to structure their arguments for the wolf to understand that they are an equal part in the relationship.
The both need to rethink why they are together.
Love, respect and teamwork are when a relationship flourishes. If you are lacking in these three areas then you have to identify the walls and help each other take it down, brick by brick.
“Life is full of peaks and troughs, it’s your heart which helps you swim through the troughs and your humbleness helps you sail through the peaks.. never forget who you are at each turn..”
“People come into your life for a reason; the negative people usually are there to teach you what you don’t want to become, treat you how you don’t want to be treated, and to show you what you don’t deserve. Embrace them, let them teach you and then let them go. Allah always keeps bringing those people into your life until you’ve learned your lesson…”
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